"In 30 years observations, Jane Goodall never saw one rape among the chimpanzees, our closest primate cousins. Though it’s not possible to draw firm conclusions about human behaviour from animals, Goodall’s findings, and many other recent studies, get us questioning the old myths we have about rape. One of the most persistent myths about rape is that male biology and primitive male sex urges drive men to rape. But current information indicates that rape is more a learned act of sexual violence that comes out of social beliefs that men have a right to dominate and control women. The fact that rape is learned means that we can work to change the underlying beliefs and eliminate rape from our communities."
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Truth About Rape (via slutwalkseattle)
Let us also keep in mind that chimp social structures are patriarchal as fuck (assuming we’re just talking about common chimps and not bonobos, who are really matriarchal [though they don’t have rape either.])
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"Our work of love should be to reclaim masculinity and not allow it to be held hostage to patriarchal domination. There is a creative, life-sustaining, life-enhancing place for the masculine in a non-dominator culture. And those of us committed to ending patriarchy can touch the hearts of real men where they live, not by demanding that they give up manhood or maleness, but by asking that they allow its meaning to be transformed, that they become disloyal to patriarchal masculinity in order to find a place for the masculine that does not make it synonymous with domination or the will to do violence."
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bell hooks, The Will to Change, p115. (via tiledsarenomore)
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Today, the video section of my daily newspaper offers a peek into the world of Americans who hate Muslims.See “Islamic Sexuality…Evil”
To recover faith in humanity, then watch sex columnist Dan Savage calmly denounce the hypocrisy of anti-gay Christians.
Plus: Catholic masculinity, gay poly living, secret sexuality, school shootings and masculinity, and “the prudes are winning.”
Read “Sexually Significant News and Views.”
The longer this video stays up on my favorites, the more hypnotic it becomes.
I refer to the video clip in the right column, marked “oh wow.”
I like thinking that even when I’m not online, that blessed young man is licking his fingers and making her wet, over and over, over and over.
I wish we were able to keep a favorite on top of our Tumblr favorites, and a blog entry too. I wouldn’t mind seeing his generous young ass every day. Well, shoulders. And peeks of chest and stomach.
Sigh. I might be turning into a dirty old lady.